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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
Transference is just as powerful as real life. So how strong it is isn't an indicator of whether it's transference or not. The behaviors and thoughts you have surrounding it are what make me think it's transference. The obsession and looking up information are all normal for transference.
So yes, I do think it would reappear.
And no, I don't think it's quite over that line yet. But it's awfully close, too close for comfort, IMO.
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Good to know that all that stuff is normal and there is a word for my madness, haha.
lol well I already knew about transference, but sometimes I wonder how much of what I do is transference-related, and others just me being...me.
I don't mind him being too close for comfort, but I think that's kind of the problem here. The fact that he could practically say or do anything and I would just eat it all up, crumbs and all. That's not right. No wonder people go on and on about the power imbalance. I'm not saying he's abusing it, but I'm certainly making it way too easy for him. I'm just sick of this. I'm sick of caring.
The thing that bothers me about his girlfriend is that I wanted to be that young ingenue to him. Now I see that I'll never be that exception, because she is already one to him. I don't know why this all matters, but in my head, it does. :-/