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Originally Posted by winenot3
Good to know that all that stuff is normal and there is a word for my madness, haha.  lol well I already knew about transference, but sometimes I wonder how much of what I do is transference-related, and others just me being...me.
I don't mind him being too close for comfort, but I think that's kind of the problem here. The fact that he could practically say or do anything and I would just eat it all up, crumbs and all. That's not right. No wonder people go on and on about the power imbalance. I'm not saying he's abusing it, but I'm certainly making it way too easy for him. I'm just sick of this. I'm sick of caring.
The thing that bothers me about his girlfriend is that I wanted to be that young ingenue to him. Now I see that I'll never be that exception, because she is already one to him. I don't know why this all matters, but in my head, it does. :-/ |
It makes total sense why it matters. And he has subtly encouraged that, which has only, IMO, made it worse. And so I think that you need to bring it up with him directly and tell him all that you're feeling. And then if he won't help you overcome it, find a new T who will work for you. Oh, and if he tries to take things further please, please, PLEASE don't allow it. I don't know that he would, but what he has already said is suspicious enough that I am throwing that in there for good measure.