Yeah I have to totally agree with Trippin2.0....how is it you have a 'connection' when you don't talk about things? Is it mostly sexual, cause I could see that, easier than I can that the two of you are connected but don't talk.

20 years is a long time. And 'only since oct2013'? I'm sorry, but I have to concur with the other posters...if you want to continue a relationship with this guy, either drag him kicking and screaming to a counselor (who will tell him exactly what you've told him) or just accept him and the fact he seems to prefer silence.

If this is not acceptable to you (and I don't care WHAT kind of a connection, this would NOT be acceptable to me) then you need to move on before the 'connection' turns into an unhealthy dependence.

Kindly ask the conductor to stop the ride, and get the heck off.

Take care