Just a few thoughts. Most of the time when I worked, I was fairly competent and disciplined. At home I was as you say, useless. And I sometimes- then and now-- stay up too late and won't eat healthy. These things I all attribute to depression. As far as the late nights, it is common for some people with depression to feel better at night than in the morning. This is how it's been more recently for me--and I think I want to stay up and awake in my latenight nondepressed world because I know the depressed world will be back in the a.m.
As far as work went I knew I could not afford to lose my job so I just drove myself all the time to stay employed--but once I got home I was useless because my efforts and the depression exhausted me.

Everything--including cleaning--seems incredibly difficult and overwhelming when I am depressed, so if anything does get done, it is usually after great procrastination. Making myself eat properly is also problematic when I am depressed. I will overeat, I think to try and make myself feel better. Most depressions I have had, food has still tasted good. However, a few depressions I had, food was completely unappetizing to me and yet I kept eating thinking the next thing I ate would make me feel better.

Perhaps I am rationalizing but after many years I have come to these conclusions.

I don't really have any advice except maybe you could lower your expectations and learn your limitations. For me this is easier said than done.

Take care, Juliana

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