I kept the secret from my family that my dad was abusing me for about 15yrs. All of it I had bottled up just started crashing in on me at once a couple of years ago so I finally told a friend. It took about a year (i’m really stubborn) but she finally convinced me to go to therapy. My t only knows a broad overview I haven’t been able to go into much detail yet. I’m never telling my family and will probably never have a spouse to tell either.