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Originally Posted by BeteNoire
I think it would have to depend on the problems.
I personally have trust and self worth issues so it takes a lot of work to get me to trust you but then I don't feel I'm worth all that effort so I start thinking the other person must be up to something malicious.
It's hard enough to have your love questioned constantly without the added lashing out and pushing away I tend to throw into the mix.
I can't subject another person to that. They don't deserve to suffer because I don't like myself.
And that's where I believe the line is drawn. Relationships are hard but when one person is causing another to truly suffer because of their issues then I think that person needs to be working on themselves before stepping into a relationship.
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To add to that someone's issues can also lead to them being more vulnerable to those with less than amicable intentions.
To use myself as an example again *eye roll* (I can be a good example... Of what not to do!)
I know of my issues. I know I can be reactionary and hard to deal with so I tend to doubt my emotions and just about everything else about myself so when he would do something and then tell me I was being paranoid and over reacting I would believe him because he was only telling me something I already 'knew'. Because of this I let that man do some horrible things and then not only get away completely free but leaving me believing it was my own fault.
Now I'm left with even worse trust and self esteem issues.
On the subject of soul mates I absolutely believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I don't believe they can fix you though.
They can be the person to give you support and help you on your journey. They may even be the reason you want to change but when it comes down to it I think the only person that can fix you is you.