My fiancé is a very hard worker, and I love that about him. He has always been a hard worker for as long as I've known him. However, within the last year he got into this hobby of creating salt water coral tanks. Apparently this is a big thing and is all-consuming. I get that he's into it, but sometimes it's like he's utterly obsessed with it. He recently decided to turn it into a business with buying and selling coral stuff for a profit, and I'm very proud of him that he's being so successful. However, it is something he spends all of his extra time doing, and it really started to cut in to the time that I had him to myself. I expressed my frustration about this to him, and at first it seemed like he adjusted politely and made big efforts to keep work separate. But now, I feel like he thinks this is a part of his life that "makes me angry" and that he can't talk to me about. He rarely talks to me about his life anymore, and always seems distracted. I have heard him say several times to customers or friends that "we need to make this quick, it makes my girl mad when I spend too much time on the tanks." I don't like being portrayed this way--because it doesn't make me mad! I don't think it was wrong for me to ask him to be sure to set aside time to be with me, and I don't think I have ever gotten "mad". Anyways, things have gotten to a point that I feel like he really isn't communicating with me anymore. (Bear with me, this is going to get a bit he said/she said). I really started to get anxious this week after I talked to one of his friends and he told me that my fiancé had said that he's not ready to get married for a few years at least, that he can't deal with that stress in addition to all his other stress right now. What stress? He hasn't told me about anything! He also just got another job for the summer, one that takes up a lot of time. He didn't even tell me he was applying.
I'm just so confused, and I'm not sure how to fix this. I'm worried that this came about of me being too clingy or smothering, and I really don't mean to be. He's just the best thing in my life right now and I truly feel that I'm meant to be with him. I don't know when things took such a left turn, but now it feels as though we want different things but that he doesn't feel he can express his wants to me. I'm scared. I really don't know what I'll do if I lose this relationship.