sorry that this bothers you so much S.W.

My marks are mostly in areas that are not visible to other people - so maybe I am not the best judge. I do not want my kids to see - because I do not want to upset them. But I am not embarassed of my marks. They are part of me. They display my pain and that I found a way to cope with it.

On the other side - when I see someone with cut marks.... I instantly feel for them. I know their pain & they know mine. I never 'judge' it, I just (figuratively) open my arms to them.