You said you have been chasing him? Well, typically men don't like to be chased often they keep you running. It sounds like you supported him with his ordeal with his mother and you were patient. It's probably time for you to get on with your own interests and stop chasing. If he is "really" interested he will come around, if not then you will already be moving forward with yourself anyway.

I will say however, that this whole ordeal with his mother probably took a lot out of him, while he may be doing some fun things, that doesn't mean he is all better and not still grieving. People sometimes distance when they grieve, might look like they are doing better but are actually still struggling. I think you should be nice, perhaps send a nice card with a caring message, but don't just sit and wait on him. Some men are very private and struggle to talk about their feelings. Did you ever ask him to just go out to dinner and talk? You can always do that and tell him you care about him but you don't want to chase him and if he isn't interested it's ok, you can be friends but you will see other people. Men are definitely not mind readers.

OE