I'm female and I wanted a male therapist. I'm not entirely sure why. I think it was partly because I had a bad experience trying a female in the past, and partly because I like the idea that we aren't the same. He doesn't know what it's like to have the same kind of body. He can't imagine what he'd do in the same situation.

I think gender is a less important factor than personality and whether the T has their stuff together so they can discuss tricky stuff without making it more awkward than it needs to be.

My T is very kind and gentle. I can't imagine a female T being a patch on him.