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Originally Posted by AllyIsHopeful
I am happy for you and glad your T was able to recognize it was helpful. I don't think there is anything wrong with touching in the least. If it is not sexual and both the Therapist and the Client agree and are comfortable I don't see a problem.
The times my T has been so close that our feet touch or the streak we went through that included happy hugs, sad hugs, relieved hugs, etc. it was so healing and was much needed because of how foreign it felt. It was good to share hugs over any emotion.
It's good to see you so happy and I bet it's so amazing that you can feel those good things outside of her company.  |
I'm glad you felt good to share hugs with your T! Yes, I'm surprised and happy that I can feel the good things outside of the session.
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Originally Posted by Virginia1991
I really honestly believe this is what I need too! But I don't think my T will go for it. It is so hard to explain. What did you say to her in the first place for her to agree to it. I am very attached to my T more so in a maternal way. What is the age difference between the two of you? Are you both female? Tell me more!
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My T and I are both female. She's a lot younger than me, but that doesn't matter when you're dealing with transference feelings, at least not to me. The hand holding started out because my T used the Internal Family Systems model, which works with different parts of your personality. Nothing to do with DID. When I was talking about a child part who felt hurt, and wanted to be held, and was alone, she asked, typical IFS questions like "what does that part want from you?" Somehow that got into my wanting comfort from T, that I didn't know how to give it to myself. She asked "does that part want me to hold her hand?" I was silent for a LONG time because I didn't think touch was allowed in therapy! It wasn't with any other T I had. But, finally, I nodded, and T held my hand.
After that, sometimes I asked her again, and she obliged. It's because she has a different set of rules from most Ts, maybe because of the IFS, the meditation/breathing, mind/body techniques she is trained in. She also does EMDR. Somatic experiencing is something related that she has advanced training in. It doesn't have to involve touching clients, but it can. My T believes that touch is healing, and now it was HER idea to let me hold her hand again. For a couple of years, she wouldn't let me.
So, I think your T would have to want touch in your sessions; many Ts don't want to. You'd have to ask, or switch to a T who does mind/body work like somatic experiencing (SE). If you really think it would help you, ask your T and see what she says.