so..i think that this is a very important thing that one should understand. it may be even subconcious but it`s still there...

ther are such people who say that they went from one theraphist to another and even years after years....
and nothing helps!

sometimes we are so burried in our pain and afterwanrd in our self pitty-that we don`t even want to try to help ourselves!
i am not saying this in a judgmental way-i have been through %#@&#! in my life and i know how it feels. and i made that mistake as anybody alse does... in other cases.
we should remember that NOTHING HELPS SOMEONE WHO DOESN`T WANT TO HELP HIMSELF !

we are so desperate that we may think tha finally when we found our therapist he will do it for us-but psychological therapy, i believe is based on SELF WORK...
the T can`t get into our heads and fix it there. YOU will do it with the help of your T.