It's strange because I have more female friends than male friends yet I prefer male therapists.

My first therapist was female, and along the way I had other female therapists for short periods of time and it rarely went well. Female T's and I get too caught up in "the meaning of language" ---we would nitpick each other on semantics/word choice etc. It bogged down therapy too much.

Also, I tend to get into power struggles with other females and I think I know why. A female -abusive- caretaker early on scared the hell out of me. I find it hard to accept and submit to another woman's authority, maybe because I equate the power imbalance to being mistreated.

I have always liked nurturing males with oddly mothering tendencies. Main T is like that.

However, CBT T seems more like a "guy's-guy" and seems happily oblivious to certain things that as a woman, I might obsess over. For example, if a car cuts you off and someone gives you the finger a guy seems more likely to get mad but then it is forgotten by the end of the day. I would, maybe other women too,obsess--why does that stranger hate me? What did I do wrong? etc. CBT T has an attitude that would be healthy for me to learn.