I am female and much prefer a male therapist. I tried several female therapists, but they treated me as fragile, pitied me, tried to "empathize" with me by telling me their own abuse stories. Just completely a turn-off and creepy actually.

My male therapists treat me supportively without pitying me or treating me as breakable. The are completely straight-forward with me because they know I can handle it; they don't run scared of my history. I've never had transference issues with any therapist, so that's been a non-issue. I find them to be great listeners who don't try to place themselves into every conversation we have and keep the focus exactly where it is supposed to be.