So H and I had a conversation. He is aprehensive of today's session with t.
I told him that, since he seemed pretty sincere about getting divorce I felt we still needed to work on our issues to be able to maintain a healthy relationship, even if we were getting divorce because we will continue to be in each other's life because of the kids.
He said he doesn't want to get divorce now (what?). He wants to work things out but doesn't want to spend too much money in t. He asked what issues we had. SO I FINALLY HAD GUTS and addressed one. Well it is a start:
I told him how hard it was for me to express my feeling to him due to fear of his reaction. I explained that, I couldn't just be me and tell him how I felt about anything, how I have to put a lot of thought into the words I use in order to hope to get the message across and also, hope that his reaction will not cause more fear.
Any way, I don't see him too willing to cooperate in t and I want to know what are his issues. I want to know why he wanted to get divorce.
I think what I will say in T is that I want to hear what his issue are, and if he is not prepared to work on them, I am not prepared to continue this marriage.
What do you think?

gab