Two years ago I met a friend on steam, which is a program you can play computer games on, it also has social networking capabilities. Ever since the friendship took off we've been talking about every other day give or take, but last Sunday he suddenly started to ignore me. After a bit of prodding he said he was mad at me, I tried to ask him what the problem was but he refused to say anything more. Now I unfortunately get real anxious when it comes to things like this, and spent the next 3 hours off and on trying to get him to say something to no avail. Eventually I gave up and didnt try again for two days, after talking at him for a bit he said that he was trying to decide if he wanted to continue being friends with me and that talking to him while he was upset wasn't helping the matter so I left it alone.

This whole thing has been making me stressed and anxious, and he knows it. I told him as much before I left him alone, but I didnt really need to tell him since he knows about that side of me. You may be asking yourself why I would put up with someone treating me this way and normally I wouldn't; this is the first time hes ever done this so I'm trying to get to the bottom of things and figure out what the deal is.

Last Wednesday I resolved to leave him alone for one week to let him get his thoughts together and yesterday I confronted him since the week was up. Still I got nothin, and because I had built that day up in my mind as the day something was going to give I got upset and pretty much asked him why hes bothering to keep me on his friendslist if he no longer wanted to be friends, among some other things.

I have a tendency to obsessively think about stuff like this, so its been on my mind almost constantly, though sometimes i feel myself beginning to become okay with us no longer talking, but only because I'm trying to be optimistic and wait for him to say something. I'm starting to internalize the fact that me trying to talk to him isnt going to get me anywhere, only he can stop this and get things moving again (I feel like im completely at his mercy though). If our friendship meant anything to him he'll eventually say something to me. I'm torn on that though because I feel like if I don't say anything he won't either and we'll no longer be friends. He doesn't like confrontation, and neither do I, but I feel like I just cant talk to him normally with this hanging over us, especially not with the way its making me feel emotionally. It would be like ignoring the elephant in the room.

If I had met him on facebook or something I'd be able to put this in the back of my mind until something happened because I barely use social networking sites. I get on steam a few hours every day though to play games and so does he, I can see hes online playing games with his other friend and the fact that hes online and ignoring me knowing damn well that we have an issue that needs to be resolved is really getting to me. Its getting to the point where I don't even want to get online because I know I'll have to face that pain again. Its like a little stab to my chest everytime that happens.

I asked him to remove me if he decided he no longer wanted to be friends so that I would know for sure, but he hasnt done that yet. He hasn't even blocked me yet despite the fact that I've sent him message after message. Since he refuses to talk to me, the fact that I'm on his friendslist after I've asked to be removed from it if he didnt want to be friends is the only thing I've been able to hang on to. At this point though I feel like I'm being given false hope. I've been starting to think that maybe hes come to a decision but can't be bothered to unfriend me. And to add to that, on his profile description he says that I'm a good friend of his, and I know that if he decides he no longer wants to associate with me that he'll remove that from his profile. That hasn't happened either which makes me feel like he still wants to be friends but just needs some more time. Though my pessimistic side is making me think that hes just forgotten that he put that on this profile and just hasn't removed it yet.

So my question for anyone reading is when should I begin to move on? I'd remove him myself but if I do that now I'd always be wondering if I waited just a little bit more would he decide he wanted to talk about whatever he was/is mad about. How long should I wait until I can deem the friendship over? So far its been a little over a week and a half since this started up. I've been reading around and some people say a month, some people say they'd keep trying to repair the friendship no matter how long it took, and say they would drop the person that was ignoring them the moment they decided to start giving them the silent treatment.

Hes my friend and I really don't want to let him go, but I'm really at a lost here.