Hello Flytomoon: I don't know that I have much to offer you. As I'm sure you know, it takes time to recover after a divorce. You & your husband were together for 11 years. I don't know how long you've been apart now. But perhaps it's just going to take more time than there has been so far. Are you able to see a counselor or therapist? Do you have any friends who would be willing to travel with you for a while until you regain your self-confidence?

I think the important thing here is to try to not be hard on yourself. You need time to heal, anyone in your situation would. Your heart is damaged. Hold it gently and lovingly while it heals...

P.S. Keep posting here on PC too. It helps!