Rothfan, you take all the time you need, and handle the situation how ever you think you should. I have never told my parents. It happened when I was 3-5 yrs old. Again when I was 10. I was raped when I was 15. Now I am 40. I have never told my parents, I have no intention of telling them ever. The T says that is fine. As long as no one else is in danger then the decision is mine. I just told my H about the rape last year. The CSA (child sexual abuse) came up with me and him about 6 months later. I don't know that it helped any to tell him, but it does give him a better idea of why I do the things I do, and why I handle situations differently. It hasn't changed how often we argue and such, but it does explain some things. If it were not for T I would not have gone threw with any of this. She ha been the biggest help and the greatest source of guidance and understanding.