I and my wife have been best friends (for the most part) since third grade. We have been together since late 2009 and committed to each other since June 9 2012 we officially got married last November. She h as s always had a very high sex dive. I on the other hand rarely want sex. I'm trying to understand her side of this issue and explain my issues too. I love her and I believe she loves me with everything she's got, but I know when I don't want sex it affects her elf esteem. Most of my issue comes from the years of physical mental and sexual abuse that I've lived through. I think she understands that to a certain point, but she still wants sex all the time. Even when she claims she doesn't want it but is trying to kiss me or cuddle me it feels like she just wants sex. I know this is something that we are going to have to compromise on, but I don't know how to and I'm not 100% sure that she does either. It hurts me when I see how she is affected when I say I'm not in the mood, but I can't help it most of the time I do not want sex. I just needed to get it out.

Tig