I don't know if inadequacy would be any different if you had had children. It just left me feeling more inadequate because I was always worried I wasn't doing the right things or giving her the necessary lessons she needed to manange in the adult world. Inadequacy seems to follow you if you already have that tendency. Maybe counseling would be a good idea. Volunteering should be very helpful. I volunteered at a nursing home for a while during the holidays last year. It was very beneficial.