Sorry you had to experience this. I believe your ex has mental health problems, but not being a professional I wouldn't hazzard to guess the exact nature of her problem.
I know it can be difficult to deal with someone who has untreated mh conditions. Sounds like you were lucky to get out of such a manipulated relationship. Take time to recover. Let the wounds heal and they will, it will just take time.
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