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Originally Posted by artyaspie
ok to that excepting the fact that I have not integrated, because I don't believe in it! Personally, my alters were so imporant to my survival that I really cannot imagine life without them. also that Aspergers is a tricky one here as it involves 'identity diffusion', which has a lot of likenesses to multiple personality! I believe in moving on too, hey, I do it every day!
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for me integration was not a matter where I could choose. the alters were extremely important to me too and they were instrumental in my survival. its just that as I healed they with out any deciding, or whether I wanted them to or not did merge together with me. it was just the natural result of healing from my problems....
with in me it was kind of like when you have a broken bone. whether you like it or not that broken bone is going to heal because thats how the human body works. you take care of the problem and the problem heals. that broken bone may heal straight or crooked or take longer then usual depending upon the treatment, and whether the patient follows the treatment plans, has other health issues or otherwise hinders that path of healing. but eventually that broken bone is going to heal back together with the rest of the body.
the mind/brain is an amazing thing where it can heal. how that healing happens, when and such all depends upon many different paths and outcomes...
for some people with DID they can choose whether to live in the dysfunctional chaos of their DID
for some people they can choose to work on their problems areas enough to live in the style of alters and host not merged but working as a team for the good of the whole collective.
for others they can choose to work on their problems to the extent where integration is possiible and then choose to do it.
but for others like me integration happens naturally through the natural progression of the host healing and then the alters jobs, purposes, reasons for being is no longer there so the alters just one day merge together to form one whole person again.
each persons healing path / the path they choose to take and whether that path turns out the way they want it to with alters and host remaining separate depends upon many different factors in that hosts and internal systems life, make up of the system and ....
well my point is if its in the cards for you and your internal system to be separate like you want it to be it will happen.
if not well like I found out whether I wanted it to happen or not, it did and there is life after integration and it turned out wonderful for me..