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Originally Posted by trying2survive
hey tessaone, i'll see if i can't help you out on this one. as a guy i can tell you that we are very visual creatures, soooo with that being said, one of the best things you can do to gain a man's attention is to be dressed very nicely.
a well dressed woman with a great smelling perfume can be downright intoxicating for us guys...the perfume is a must...don't be cheap either..a good perfume is well worth the cost.
so being nicely dressed( no jogging pants, please!..THIS IS A MAJOR TURN OFF FOR MOST GUYS) shows that you care about your appearance, that alone will grab the object of your desire's attention along with a great smelling perfume and you have formed a combination that is tough to beat!
so without knowing much about the guy, this is a general guideline for starters, a template if you will..so start from there and see if you can get some eye contact and go from there! good luck & go for it!
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"so being nicely dressed(
no jogging pants, please!..THIS IS A MAJOR TURN OFF FOR MOST GUYS)"
very much would like to point out you can't generalize what guys like this way or say "most" would like or be turned off by... This is not about the being nicely dressed, also somewhat subjective but true.
That being said, as a guy.. I will say that jogging pants are definitely not a turn off by any means as I look more to the girl in question and her personality, way she carries herself and such.
For me perfume is somewhat of a turn off. Unless I'm already with a girl that I love or like, what she smells like if it's strong enough is going to make me think she's doing something to "attract" males and I'd rather find a woman that just goes about her day and does waht she does.
What am I saying? Be confident, do go out of your way to catch his attention but not to the expense of waht you truly are. If you wear perfume typically, by all means continue to do that, but also if you like jogging pants, don't make yourself go out ofyour way wearing untypical clothing to avoid something that might be a turn off. Fact is, you want a guy who is attracted and interested in what you are not waht you pretend to be.
BE YOURSELF. I can't emphasize that enough. I would be very disappointed to find that i was attracted to a girl that wore this or that and did things some way to attract me to find that when her true colors came out she was nothing like what I was attracted to. This is dangerous.
What you can do. I am an introvert and do not approach women. If you're the type to do so, one thing that works for me, is if a woman is forward enough to show me attention, look, say hi, talk to me. Doesn't mean you come onto him but that you break the ice. I can only speak from experience for myself. Again, show interest in a way that makes it clear you're paying attention, even if not talking to him first, pay attention and be friendly. If he's a guy that shows up often, do this consistently and he will notice. You can't control if he approaches but i guarantee he'll notice that you're doing such things.
If he shows interest back and you can do this, approach him. just casually make conversation at that point. Go from there.
It matters very little what you look like, as long as you appear confident, interested and are PAYING ATTENTION to him.