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Victoria'smom · May 23, 2014, 12:58 PM

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I'm an advarage, hard working guy that has a mentally ill ex. Her former friend even warned me. She stopped by my business after talking for a while both liked each other. She noticed and texted. Started dating her a couple of days later. You did have sex on the second date. She knows somethings wrong with her and she had a crappy life and doesnt talk to her family because of it. She liked having sex but has a drug issues. Shes not permiscuous but hypersexual. I was not happy about the type of parent she was or her friends. Her way of having fun is sex. She denies her drinking problem. She's not well liked because of her behavior. She has many drs appointments. She has intense anxiety which harms her brother. Her house was unkeep. She still kept in contact with her ex that wanted a relationship with her. She didn't like shareing her day and wanted a serious relationship to fast. She may have cheated on me.
She started to be really distant and even stood me up because she got distracted. When I found her she was with another guy that was her drug dealer but she introduced us. She was jealous and easily aggravated that night.

The next morning she just hated me. She sent me horrible email for 9 days. Now she's acting like shes fine but aggressive when confronted. She's s still texting even after she got back with her ex. She knows she has mental health issues but refuses to do anything about it. She flipped out when I told her I knew about her mental health issues. She's over spending and she's known to do that.

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what could be the causes of her erratic and unstable behaviour.

Any number of things: drug use, bipolar, scizoaffective, borderline or any number of things As her family has mental illness.

Her symptoms Hypersexuality, Drug issues,Anxiety, Hallucination that caused derealization, inability to keep livable surroundings,Lying or delusional, Easily aggravated and Over Spending all sound like mania. Which is hell on everyone involved. The things that don't fit are lack of interested and Idolization unless she's in a mixed episode. It sounds like if you asked her brother he would be able to tell you what her dx is.

However, here's the thing if she does have mental illness it has to be dealt with after she deals with her addiction. Neither addiction or mental health she wants to deal with so there's nothing you can do but walk away. She'll eventually learn to get help, eventually be sectioned or this mood will pass.