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Originally Posted by CountingSheep
Thanks for the hug 
I'll try to let it go, no matter how much it bothers me. I'm tryin to come to terms with the fact that I might never know what sparked this in the first place. No matter how much I try to encourage him to talk about whatever it is though I can't force him to act until hes ready, if he ever decides to act at all. I just really hope that if he does come to a decision and decides he no longer wants to be friends that he would at least let it end on good terms and give it a respectful end like I asked in the beginning (or at least take me off his friendslist so im not kept wondering).
To be honest though I really don't think he'll end the friendship, but thats only because I can't think of anything I've done that would cause him to be angry at me in the first place. My optimistic side is at war with my pessimistic side though. All I can do is wait and hope this has a positive end. |
I do agree with Yoda...it would be helpful if he told you why he was angry. The fact he doesn't, and doesn't mind keeping you hanging on is what bothers me. It sounds passive aggressive and manipulative, especially as he knows, just as you do, when you are both online, but he still chooses to ignore you.
Head games. Has he done this before? Maybe not to this extreme, but in a case where you felt off balance and hurt?
Honestly, it would piss me off. I do get that you feel (as does some on this thread) that maybe you pressed too much, and although you don't actually come out and say it, that you may have nagged. Well excuuuuuse me.......if a 'friend' of 2 years suddenly pulls the silent treatment, and when I ask quite honestly what I've done to upset them...and they refuse to tell me, but vaguely allude to another time when they may grace me with their presence and their reason for blatently ignoring me.....well, tough luck, darlin. I'm out.
I would suggest, even if he's been a friend for 2 years....FRIENDS don't do that to friends, especially if they know how this could adversely affect them....and frankly, MI or no MI...ignoring someone without at least letting them know why, would affect anyone.
IMHO.....just step away. And stop beating yourself up.
