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Originally Posted by waiting4
I do agree with Yoda...it would be helpful if he told you why he was angry. The fact he doesn't, and doesn't mind keeping you hanging on is what bothers me. It sounds passive aggressive and manipulative, especially as he knows, just as you do, when you are both online, but he still chooses to ignore you.
Head games. Has he done this before? Maybe not to this extreme, but in a case where you felt off balance and hurt?
Honestly, it would piss me off. I do get that you feel (as does some on this thread) that maybe you pressed too much, and although you don't actually come out and say it, that you may have nagged. Well excuuuuuse me.......if a 'friend' of 2 years suddenly pulls the silent treatment, and when I ask quite honestly what I've done to upset them...and they refuse to tell me, but vaguely allude to another time when they may grace me with their presence and their reason for blatently ignoring me.....well, tough luck, darlin. I'm out.
I would suggest, even if he's been a friend for 2 years....FRIENDS don't do that to friends, especially if they know how this could adversely affect them....and frankly, MI or no MI...ignoring someone without at least letting them know why, would affect anyone.
IMHO.....just step away. And stop beating yourself up.  |
He hasn't done anything like this before. The only times he would take his time replying to me would be while we were gaming, since he didnt want to stop in the middle of a match to type. He would wait until he died and was able to stop and reply, usually the wait would be no longer than 5 minutes.
This whole thing is making me angry, but I'm trying to put it in the back of my mind. I'll admit that I have probably tried a bit too hard to get him to talk because this behavior doesn't make a lick of sense to me, if I have a problem with someone I'm going to come right out and say it. Theres no point in trying to ignore the issue since that won't solve anything.
It's only been a week and a half and though I've been stressing out I'm trying to remain positive, I would like to believe hes going to come around since hes never done this (at least to me) before. I am bracing myself for the worst though and am trying to begin separating myself, if he wants to talk then I'm all for it, but I'm tired of trying to be friendly to him and getting that thrown back in my face.
Despite what I just said though I've been contemplating sending him one last message in a few days, maybe just trying to talk like normal without bringing this problem up (I definitely don't intend to forget though, I would like an explanation). Just about every time I've tried to talk to him in the past week I've tried to clear the air and get to the root of this problem, so maybe he feels pressured. He doesn't like confrontation (hes said himself hes a coward that would much rather sit in a corner and do nothing than face his problems) and the fact that I'm still on his friendslist and still listed as being a good friend on his profile description makes me think he still wants to be friends but just doesnt want to talk about this. I'm not sure if this is a good idea though.
I will say this though. If we do get this problem patched up and later on down the line he gives me the silent treatment again Im walking away. The only reason I'm even bothering to save things now is because its the first time hes done it. I feel like I've lost a little bit of my self respect trying to salvage things when hes treating me this way.