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Originally Posted by CountingSheep
He hasn't done anything like this before. The only times he would take his time replying to me would be while we were gaming, since he didnt want to stop in the middle of a match to type. He would wait until he died and was able to stop and reply, usually the wait would be no longer than 5 minutes.
This whole thing is making me angry, but I'm trying to put it in the back of my mind. I'll admit that I have probably tried a bit too hard to get him to talk because this behavior doesn't make a lick of sense to me, if I have a problem with someone I'm going to come right out and say it. Theres no point in trying to ignore the issue since that won't solve anything.
It's only been a week and a half and though I've been stressing out I'm trying to remain positive, I would like to believe hes going to come around since hes never done this (at least to me) before. I am bracing myself for the worst though and am trying to begin separating myself, if he wants to talk then I'm all for it, but I'm tired of trying to be friendly to him and getting that thrown back in my face.
Despite what I just said though I've been contemplating sending him one last message in a few days, maybe just trying to talk like normal without bringing this problem up (I definitely don't intend to forget though, I would like an explanation). Just about every time I've tried to talk to him in the past week I've tried to clear the air and get to the root of this problem, so maybe he feels pressured. He doesn't like confrontation and the fact that I'm still on his friendslist and still listed as being a good friend on his profile description makes me think he still wants to be friends but just doesnt want to talk about this. I'm not sure if this is a good idea though.
I will say this though. If we do get this problem patched up and later on down the line he gives me the silent treatment again Im walking away. The only reason I'm even bothering to save things now is because its the first time hes done it. I feel like I've lost a little bit of my self respect trying to salvage things when hes treating me this way.
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I totally get where you're coming from, but honestly, as good as he is at kicking you to the proverbial curb until he's ready...he's done it before, if not to you, then to someone.
I suggest STRONGLY...you DON'T contact him...not in a week, not in 2 weeks. Eventually, he may come around but if you continue to act like you're desperate to find out what's wrong (and contacting him again after you've already made several attempts) looks desperate, is a huge mistake.
Trust me on this (I have more experiance than I want, and wish I'd had someone to rein in my fears too, back then...I didn't and lost huge amounts of self-esteem, none of which I could afford to lose)...no contact. Let him make the first move. And if he does DO NOT FALL ALL OVER HIM IN GRATITUDE HE DID. You're right to distance yourself, if for no other reason than to save your emotional wounding.
Just try to step back a little, and gain some perspective.
Take care