So here we have this woman, who is a competent and experienced therapist, seeing in black and white on some very specific issues. Why?

I remember an incident, many years ago, that might have triggered her along these lines and for which she might not have forgiven me. She probably isn't consciously aware of that.

So I'm thinking that if I take responsibility for it and white her an apology, maybe it will make a difference. Can't hurt to try!

Is it OK for me to take responsibility, Hankster?