When I'm in public I'm always putting on a facade like you are saying and it's tiring. Maybe you could trying a dating website. Nowadays everybody uses them and they are perfect for withdrawn people like us.

Seeing a therapist is really going to help you sort things out - that's the best thing you can do. It's the kind of thing that you might tend to put off and not make the call but I think the best thing you can do is just say ***** it and make the call tomorrow... you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain so don't put it off.

Also I think you will get a lot of good advice and support posting here so stick around and post more. People here are helpful and a lot of them are going through the same kind of thing you are. Take care, man!