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Originally Posted by 1914sierra
I doubt she was " in trouble" with her hyusband or he was "angry" with her. That's your interpretation of what it means when a husband and wife make a request of each other, and it is probably very skewed. Sounded like a simple request on his part and one she was perfectly fine with.
Just ask for what you need, take care of you, and let your T take care of herself. She seems quite capable of doing so. Why is it your job to keep her out of trouble? Is that your role in life? Are you the peace-maker?
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I am sure this is definitely my skewed view of it. In my mind, she was "in trouble", and that leads to being punished in some way. I respond with that interpretation whenever someone is unhappy with me, and I guess I am doing the same with her.
As for my role in life, I think it had to do with my obsession with never getting myself in trouble, and feeling bad if someone else got in trouble. I have memories of me or my brother doing something wrong and getting in trouble for it and being abused. And so I am sure all of that plays into it. I'm also somewhat of a peace-maker by nature, and I don't like arguments or difficulties in relationships. They make me anxious.