I know that through 33 years of living with my H he was a nice guy & knew some nice things that were right to do..but if something came up that he hadn't been taught he was at a loss. There was never any emotional feelings in the marriage between us & any friends we had were people i knew.
Obviously he is now 62..& it has only been after I left him & some of the anger settled down that i have resrarched aspergers & it's the only thing that makes 100% sense out of all the issues..great he was good at math but nothing else. I saw personality & attitude issues back in 1975 before we got married but asprrgers wasn't dx'ed before 1994. There seemed like no way of getting through to him & when i left he said he never thought i would quit tolerating him. That pretty much summed up our marriage.
Remember it's a spectrum dx & everyone is at a different point with different strengths & weaknesses & abilities...but not sure there are any skills that can be taught when it comes to relationships.
He constantly had problems in his engineering career & constantly changed companies until it all caught up with him & no one would hire him. He managed to stay ahead of that for 20 years but was so limited in his ability there was no where for him to go with the reputation he created..that was becomming more obvious as the years went by also & he couldn't figure out how to deal with company politics & management.
It was like he stayed a child all his life especially when responsibility was required...& yet he is a nice person...that was what was so confusing.
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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