i think it is a bit harder for us with BPD because everything is so much more intensified, so right away it's not a picnic..then you throw in a bit of paranoia and our minds are off to the races.

i have the jealous thoughts from time to time(even now over little things that i shouldn't be) but i tell myself i am being insecure & if i have no reason to believe anything is going on..then i need to calm down.

i think i do a good job of controlling it...i don't want to run anybody away, so i know that i have to so i don't have to deal with being abandoned, so that forces me to keep a lid on it.

i get these thoughts in my head and i just do my best to ignore them, sometimes i don't ask certain questions because i know they will reveal my jealousy and create problems so i "shut down" too...sometimes i think it's better that way, this way i don't f*** it up( i'm pretty good at that!)

IMHO the best thing to do is to realize the feelings for what they are just feelings with no substance or merit..not easy to do but gets easier with practice, so when they pop in i say to myself "ok i am being jealous, let me stop , think about what i am about to say to make sure i am not about to ruin everything"..so far it's working!

IMHO that's about all you can do, i don't know that jealous feelings every go away...i imagine they mean that we fear someone we want is being taken away from us/ability to be together is being threatened, and of course we don't want that so those feelings crank right on up!

i hope this helps