HI Michelle - Boy you could have been writing about my son - the lunch box, the desk, the sweatshirts, the whole kit and kaboddle. And we have the self esteem issue too. How did the doctor visit go? Did you see an MD (and if so what specialty) or a Ph.D.? Have you had your son's IQ tested? I initially had my son's tested because we thought initially in 1st grade that he was just bored. He scored very high (probably smarter than mom )but in 2nd grade he has really struggled. And at home it is the same. I have learned not to tell him to clean his room but rather to list each task individually and only tell him the next after the first is done otherwise nothing gets done. And half the time I still need to remind him to complete the task as hand. But there are a few things that can keep him occupied - the GameBoy, the Game Cube, the computer, and reading. I read somewhere that kids with ADD enjoy activities like those above because they move fast - like their minds. Don't know if that makes sense or not - any ways I would love to hear how the Drs. went and will post how are visit goes as well.