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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
"so being nicely dressed( no jogging pants, please!..THIS IS A MAJOR TURN OFF FOR MOST GUYS)"
very much would like to point out you can't generalize what guys like this way or say "most" would like or be turned off by... This is not about the being nicely dressed, also somewhat subjective but true.
That being said, as a guy.. I will say that jogging pants are definitely not a turn off by any means as I look more to the girl in question and her personality, way she carries herself and such.
For me perfume is somewhat of a turn off. Unless I'm already with a girl that I love or like, what she smells like if it's strong enough is going to make me think she's doing something to "attract" males and I'd rather find a woman that just goes about her day and does waht she does.
What am I saying? Be confident, do go out of your way to catch his attention but not to the expense of waht you truly are. If you wear perfume typically, by all means continue to do that, but also if you like jogging pants, don't make yourself go out ofyour way wearing untypical clothing to avoid something that might be a turn off. Fact is, you want a guy who is attracted and interested in what you are not waht you pretend to be.
BE YOURSELF. I can't emphasize that enough. I would be very disappointed to find that i was attracted to a girl that wore this or that and did things some way to attract me to find that when her true colors came out she was nothing like what I was attracted to. This is dangerous.
What you can do. I am an introvert and do not approach women. If you're the type to do so, one thing that works for me, is if a woman is forward enough to show me attention, look, say hi, talk to me. Doesn't mean you come onto him but that you break the ice. I can only speak from experience for myself. Again, show interest in a way that makes it clear you're paying attention, even if not talking to him first, pay attention and be friendly. If he's a guy that shows up often, do this consistently and he will notice. You can't control if he approaches but i guarantee he'll notice that you're doing such things.
If he shows interest back and you can do this, approach him. just casually make conversation at that point. Go from there.
It matters very little what you look like, as long as you appear confident, interested and are PAYING ATTENTION to him.
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i can understand your point of view, but as me being a guy myself & having a lot of guy friends...the majority of us care not for a girl just throws on a pair of jogging pants on a regular basis...everyone is different..this is true, for me and most of the guys i know/associate with/hang around..we appreciate a well dressed woman.
some guys wouldn't care if a woman wore a monkey suit as long as she is female..myself..a little more picky than that. so unfortunately in the world we live in, the way you carry yourself GENERALLY will determine the type of people you wish to attract, IMHO if you wish to attract a higher quality type of guy, well....jogging pants aren't gonna do it, i would advise to step it up a bit.
but again keep in mind the OP is asking what to do to attract a guy/guy they are interested in, with this being said i feel it is safe to ASSUME (i could be wrong) that the OP previous methods are not effective/ or not confident in those methods.
again, some guys don't care what you wear...but also some guys you don't want to attract, i find it hard to believe that you wouldn't be more attracted to a well dressed woman vs one who looked like she just got out of bed.
i can see your point /concern about "pretending' to be what you are not...IMHO most women do have a wardrobe with more than one type of clothing, so i don't feel so much that it is a case of false pretenses vs dressing for the occasion.
myself i am an extrovert, in my days i have met many women & have learned a lot from them, the flip applies to us guys..i wouldn't try to get a woman's attention wearing a "wife beater"(for lack of a better term) and jogging pants..i would expect not to get the time of day..it's about dressing for success and increasing the odds..this is why they make make up for women and suits for men, doesn't mean that's not who you really are..just an enhancement.
IMHO this will get you "in the door" so to speak..after that conversation & time together people really get to know you. all i am saying is to increase your odds and give yourself a fighting chance.
to say it matters very little what you look like is hard for me to swallow hearing you say this, from guy to guy i must respectfully disagree..it is very true that we gentlemen are VISUAL creatures, looks is one of the first things that get our attention, i'm sorry if a gal looks like crap no way is she getting the time of day from me..i care about my appearance and she should too.
now you may not agree with me and that's fine we all are entitled to our own opinions...to widen your net of opportunity, you really need to make the BEST impression possible to me it's just common sense.
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