I used to think that. I used to believe that there was something good that would come out of my suffering, but then my therapist gave up on me and I became numb and dead and not caring. I don't believe it anymore. I believe suffering is just suffering and we all go through some kind of pain and hurt. I don't think there is any reason. It just happens. Pain is never ending. Even if one kind of pain ends, another is there to take its place. It goes on and on until we die.