Wanted to say Thank You to all of you for your thoughtful responses, SkyWhite, OpenEyes, and ThisWayOut. It helps to be validated, and for others to be able to see past the crazy and understand the behaviour underneath. I appreciate your feedback.

I had to hide out for a few days to recover - it brings back so many feelings and memories I just pull into myself. Stalking makes you feel extremely exposed - there is no protective layer. And there is paranoia that even snippets of seemingly harmless information, once out of your control, can be used to hurt and manipulate. Know I sound absolutely mad, but the most innocent questions make me tense. Thank you all for your understanding and taking the time to post.

I may seriously consider investing in a snake....