I have to also say- if someone is doing something just to be flashy, it's a complete turn off. The peacock thing doesn't work. you can tell when it's not their usual.

If you expect women not to "give you the time of day" in a tank and sweat pants? They won't.

They can tell you don't think much of yourself and that you don't expect to be given a chance. If you need that degree of confidence from something external, it usually shows for some women.

So if I happened upon you gardening versus at a nice cocktail party and you acted differently if I met you for the first time at each occasion? I find that to be a problem, and that's the impression I'm getting here.

I also shouldn't have to fight to be given a chance. If that's the case? The guy doesn't see how awesome i am just in how I interact with people and he's probably not aware enough that it would work anyway.

What guys find great about me is ME. When they come up and talk to me, it's because I'm laughing or smiling or having some silly pseudo-debate in a really entertaining way about what exactly the color puce is. [Also it's possible complimentary colors]. They like that I'm funny, slightly impulsive but try to curb that, I don't like hurting people's feelings. I'll go up to people randomly if I really want to say something to them, i always say thank you and please to people who serve me.

i start conversations with people who I want to notice me and ask questions about them.

Which is why I suggested it.
I don't flash my feathers. I have pretty much zero interest in someone's feathers, I don't care for that to be the reason they take interest in me.

Just another perspective, a little more explanatory than my previous posts.
Sorry! I just woke up haha.