I think that your plan is a good one, and one I'm probably going to follow myself. If in therapy he can discuss his own issues and shortcomings and things he needs to work on, then maybe there is a chance. How did he react when you told him about your fear? Did he seem like he understood what he was doing to make you afraid? Funny, lately I feel like I am not sharing anything that I feel or think, that I'm not even me anymore. That must be how you have felt for a long time. I know it's not healthy, good luck in therapy. I'll be thinking of you.