So I met this guy earlier this week on a popular phone app. I've been pretty lonely but not looking for a hookup, and I explained that to him and he really wanted to meet me. I was feeling self conscious but I met him anyways. I don't think he was as physically attracted to me as he expected from my pictures. I do not falsely represent myself in my photos: I am a fairly attractive person, but I was not having the best day (or week). I've been kind of beating myself up because I feel like maybe he'd like me more if he thought I was prettier, and all I would've had to do was wait until maybe next week until I felt and looked better. He's not really my romantic type.... he's shorter, less muscular, doesn't eat well.... he's just not quite as masculine as I like, but I still found him intriguing and want to be friends.

Honestly, our conversation was just okay. We talked for three or four hours but there wasn't quite a romantic spark, I guess... I really at least want to be just friends. I keep on going on that app and seeing that he's been online but he hasn't messaged me back since the last time I messaged him. We'd been talking every day since we met (except today), but our conversations have been kind of boring. He stopped responding around this time yesterday, and I don't know why! I've been thinking about him constantly, and I even found his facebook and looked through all of his public pictures and his friends. I think there are two reasons why I want to be friends with him so badly. For one, he is from France and has a really cute accent, (there may be some kind of language/cultural barrier) but also because during our conversation he noted that he really felt strongly against sexual violence towards females (I know, interesting conversation) but I was really drawn to that because I've been a victim of sexual violence, and I normally feel that guys are out to objectify and/or violate me. I think he'd just be a good friend that I could feel safe hanging out with. I just feel bad because I don't want to smother him but I really want to be friends and hang out more during the summer. What do I do? Should I just let it go and admit that he doesn't want to be my friend?