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withit, for some reason, your post reminded me of the last time I shared with T along the same lines--about something that revealed my imperfection, that I had repeatedly been a coward and not done the right thing. He was pretty harsh with me and berated me. Not fun. I felt I deserved it, though. He said he was that way because he wanted me to realize how serious it was, and I did. Point well taken. Next session we made up, and I feel we are OK now. But that experience makes sharing along those same lines harder. I have had lots of the positive in therapy, but it is hard to face that sometimes therapy can make you feel like crap. It is hard to reveal your mistakes even to a trusted other. But I will try.

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Good morning girls!

Sunrise, I'm not sure his "berating" you was helpful. Especially if you are afraid to go further. There are ways to be firm but berating seems out of line IMHO? Maybe you should talk about that more with him so you can move past it...?

As for secrets, I don't keep any from him purposely, but if he doesn't ask a certain hot button question, I don't always offer it first. A good example will be today's session. I was awful last week to my husband and in front of our friends, had an outburst with my boss and am just feeling on the edge.

Part me of doesn't want to say any of this to him. But there isn't much I can't tell him (except when it's about him giggle) and I have to remember that our session is not supposed to be a "hey how have you been" kind of thing which I tend to do when I want to avoid difficult subjects.