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A kiss is not just a kiss - when it is a friend that you feel romantic about. It could change the friendship. Or you could say..."I would love to kiss you".."but I value our friendship more and I do not want to jeopardize that by crossing the line". Your fantasy of him - because you are being denied makes you crave it even more.
And then I did somethig like this - I had a friend that I moved in with to share expenses. This is crazy I know...but I slept with him to more or less get the sexual tension over with. We knew we had platonic friendship and wanted to keep things in reality. It worked but it was risky.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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