whatever works for you is fantastic, as they say "different strokes for different folks" everyone's situation indifferent. i simply suggest something to help increase the odds.

beings smart, funny and nice and all that good stuff is great...but it doesn't amount to a hill of beans if you never get the chance to meet a person.
i'm being realistic..talking about people IN GENERAL in the REAL WORLD...

thee are plenty of great guys & gals that are wonderful people and would make excellent gf/bf but they my be overweight/nerdy/ugly etc. great people still but will be having all types of hell finding someone. sadly the reality is we live in a superficial society & people do place a premium on looks and appearance, i wouldn't imagine a person would go on a job interview in a pair of sweats and a t shirt...most people don't go out to clubs and bars in that type of attire either.

why? because they want to make a good impression simple as that. doesn't make it wrong or right..it just is. so be advised everyone has an opinion..it may not be POLITICALLY CORRECT but they are opinions & i know quite a few people that think as i do, doesn't mean i am right or wrong...just my opinion.

some guys won't talk to girls they perceive to be overweight...the girl might be a wonderful person, sadly that is a barrier to some people. there are girls that are the same way.

some won't deal with someone who is unemployed...technically it shouldn't matter,right? long as they are a "nice' person that is "funny & confident"
for some people that is a major turn off, doesn't make it right or wrong...just a matter of opinion.

there are quality people that dress nice and quality people that look like shyt,
once you get past the clothes at the end of the day the person you get is all that really matters..i get that. but if you are ACTIVELY SEEKING to attract someone..you might want to put your best foot forward...just a thought.

myself..i'm not actively seeking anyone..but i know what to do if i wish to & so far it has worked quite well, i have never had a problem attracting a mate & i imagine i never will..hee hee so i offer tips to help those who have less experience than i do, advice is objective..you can take it or leave it.

at the end of the day..everyone has different standards, the word on the street so to speak is that most guys will sleep with anything and everything,
myself & my guy friends are a lot more selective than that..we know what we bring to the table and expect the same. one persons "shallow" is another persons "picky" i get that & that's fine i accept that.

so at the end of the day you can increase the odds or keep doing what you are doing...if it ain't working...you might want to try something else..just a thought.