I have both mom and pop issues. When they were alive, I would've said all my issues with my dad. I resolved most of those with my dad while he was still alive, although most of it was while he had Alzheimer's. Sadly, I'm not sure we managed to solve his issues with me.
It was different with my mother. I thought that she and I worked out our issues as we went while she was alive; after her death, and while caring for my dad, I realized I had a lot of unresolved issues with my mom that I had never before been aware of. Or maybe it was just that I was afraid to confront them with her directly while she was alive. Now much of my T time (tea time, I wish ) focuses on her.

You're in my thoughts, dear niece Fuzzybear, & in my heart. PM me anytime if talking would help. I almost always help me.

I love you sooo much.