Your husband just wants to feel wanted. If he's always the one initiating, how can he feel that you are still attracted to him. He may feel that you are just doing your spousal duty. Try reversing the roles and see it from his point of view. You might both try to take the free quiz on the 5 love languages. That way you can both see how each of you views and communicate love.

I'm sorry you never orgasm. It could actually be a fun adventure for the two of you to try to reach orgasm. People are different. Some reach orgasm very quickly and others take forever. My advice is to read different sex literature together and try different things on each other. I think it could get you two closer to each other.

I have seen plenty of the initiation complaints go both ways...there's as many male complaints as female.

Good luck and have fun!