For the past few sessions, my T and I have been working specifically on boundaries with my father. I have a list of rules that my therapist and I worked on that would warrant me calling the cops on him, like him coming over in the middle of the night or coming to our house without us there. I also have "homework" of a list of things that I need to eventually tell him about, like how I'm uncomfortable with him moving out here.

(Background)
My father is moving out here this month, and there's a history of abuse so I'm uncomfortable around him and worry that he's going to stalk me and drive by my house, etc.

He came out here yesterday and showed up at my house and was sleeping in my driveway in his truck. He did offer to buy us groceries and help us out with what we need, so we said he could stay a few days while he's going back and forth between Denver & Chicago to bring his stuff out.

According to my therapist (and I agree), I have avoidant personality so it's really easy for me to brush this under the rug and not say anything to my father about it. I don't want to upset him before he helps us out like he promised. For me, him staying over night is different than him living with me. That I could not do.

The problem is, I feel like I'm going to upset my T on Thursday when I see him and I tell him I let my father spend a few nights and didn't bring up that I'm uncomfortable. I don't want him feeling like we've wasted the past few weeks on nothing, even though I literally had a panic attack talking about it last week. I know I'm setting myself up for stress and ultimately that will likely lead to SH, but I'm giving in because it's easier and he's still my father. I don't know how to proceed or explain myself with my T. Any advice?