sunny, did you and T talk about how you felt when he was harsh?

You could also open with that idea... that you have something to talk about but the memory of that time makes you hesitant to do so.

I'm sorry times are hard with your family right now. You are a wonderful person and I know you want everything to go well. I'm sure things will get better and you will get to where you want to be.

How is your daughter doing?

ECHOES