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Originally Posted by CountingSheep
I think I'll do that once its been a month, it won't be long. Its getting easier surprisingly enough, instead of being really distressed now I'm just annoyed at his childish actions. I'm not completely sure he would read the message at this point though, but at least I would have made one last effort to patch things up.
Still hopin for the best though.
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In an earlier post you said that Monday would make it a month...as I am typing this it's Monday...Honestly I really believe you should follow JosieTheGirl's advice. Majority says to unfriend him and obviously I agree.
However I'd like to add something:
It's been mentioned that he's keeping up this behavior as punishment. I'm going to add to that and tell you since you already know he's a pretty passive person (as in, not confronting the conflict at all) it only makes sense that he'd do this, as messed up as it is.
He's really passive-aggressive. He's angry for whatever reason and won't face that, so he'd like you to feel that too by making trying to make it
seem you don't have the upper hand in this situation.
I'm going to give you a different thought. I know you still think of him as your friend...yet I have to tell you that he's most likely not thinking this of you.
I'm being as honest as possible because I know if I were going through this I'd want the next person to do the same for me. Now enough with the I's and more of the you's...
He's keeping your name as a good friend on his profile to give you the idea that things will still be okay in the friendship. However, he knows - even though he isn't acknowledging this himself...if that makes sense - that things aren't okay on his end. He's making this clear not by what he's telling you but by how he's
acting and by posting the whole thing about not accepting new requests. He's purposely not giving you room for options. So the result is him logging on, you seeing him being there and him not acknowledging
his problem.
Not okay. Oh: notice I said
his problem. If he didn't have his own internal struggles he wouldn't have an issue about discussing it with you; this was a friendship after all. Sometimes we have to know when to walk away from something and unfortunately this is one of those times.
Which leads me to say, give him what he wants but is too afraid to do himself. Cut off all ties and leave it at that. It's hard to hear
yet that's really the best approach. If he was interested in keeping things going he had more than enough time to do so by now.
For you hun: