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Originally Posted by herpoorsoul
In an earlier post you said that Monday would make it a month...as I am typing this it's Monday...Honestly I really believe you should follow JosieTheGirl's advice. Majority says to unfriend him and obviously I agree.  However I'd like to add something:
It's been mentioned that he's keeping up this behavior as punishment. I'm going to add to that and tell you since you already know he's a pretty passive person (as in, not confronting the conflict at all) it only makes sense that he'd do this, as messed up as it is.  He's really passive-aggressive. He's angry for whatever reason and won't face that, so he'd like you to feel that too by making trying to make it seem you don't have the upper hand in this situation.
I'm going to give you a different thought. I know you still think of him as your friend...yet I have to tell you that he's most likely not thinking this of you. I'm being as honest as possible because I know if I were going through this I'd want the next person to do the same for me. Now enough with the I's and more of the you's...
He's keeping your name as a good friend on his profile to give you the idea that things will still be okay in the friendship. However, he knows - even though he isn't acknowledging this himself...if that makes sense - that things aren't okay on his end. He's making this clear not by what he's telling you but by how he's acting and by posting the whole thing about not accepting new requests. He's purposely not giving you room for options. So the result is him logging on, you seeing him being there and him not acknowledging his problem. Not okay. Oh: notice I said his problem. If he didn't have his own internal struggles he wouldn't have an issue about discussing it with you; this was a friendship after all. Sometimes we have to know when to walk away from something and unfortunately this is one of those times. 
Which leads me to say, give him what he wants but is too afraid to do himself. Cut off all ties and leave it at that. It's hard to hear  yet that's really the best approach. If he was interested in keeping things going he had more than enough time to do so by now.
For you hun: |
Despite what I said in my last post it hasnt gotten easier. I thought I was movin on but I guess I wasnt. For the last few days he hasnt been playing any games and hasnt been online much and his inactivity calmed me I guess ,but today he jumped on and played with his other friend. The fact that he once again chose to ignore me cut just as deep as when it started. I suppose I tricked myself into thinking that maybe he was thinking things over and when he resumed his normal gaming routine he would start trying to address this, but I was wrong. I went outside afterwards, stood out in the night air to clear my mind and then sat on the porch and almost cried. I can't keep doing this.
I think I'm going to go with what Blur suggested and send him one last message with my thoughts with a short time limit for him to respond and after that I'm done, for better or for worse. I know you and some other posters here would rather have me just remove him without a word and continue with my life, but I just need to try one more time and if i don't get a response then I'll take my closure from that. At this point I'm probably just causing myself unnecessary pain when I've already felt enough of it but I have to do it. I don't know when I'm going to go through with it, I might do it after I'm done typing this, I may do it a few days from now or in a week. I'm honestly afraid to confront him because if things to south (even further south) then that'll be the final time I speak to him and things will be over.
I hope you and the other people that have given me advice don't take this as me not appreciating the help, I truly do. Thanks so much for everything. I'm just having a lot of troubling walking away.
Something has to give though. I can't take this anymore.