Hi, all,
I posted here several months ago about hearing from the old college boyfriend who had looked me up thru our alumni assoc. I've been hearing from him thru snail mail letters since last early fall, during which time he had a serious accident and almost died. His sister called me after this telling me of his accident. I have called him several times to learn of his healing progress, and we have had several pleasant, friendly conversations, but something about our communication leaves much to be desired. I think he is very self-centered, or defensive.
He has been single all these years, except for a short marriage in his 20's. He's age 60 now. I'm 56. During our youth, although we talked of marriage, I rather quickly became distracted afer he graduated, and found myself attracted to other fellas, at which he would return to campus, following me around crying openly.
Am I kidding myself that there could be any kind of emotional connection with this fella? He lives on the beach in CA, and I am in WV. He just got email and told me he is and has been alone for a very long time. Also, that he hopes to visit here this summer. The question I've been asking myself regarding our communication is: "Am I so desperate that I am willing to accept so little?" I mean nothing from him in a warm affectionate communication, and so I remind myself to invest nothing in this.
I haven't dated for three years now after the debacle that brought me here to this site.
Any feedback will be greatly appreciated.
Patty