I may be wrong, but I think it's cruel and even anti-therapeutic to tell someone new in transference that you(therapist) can never be the parent, never touch, and such hard boundaries. That was back in the times of Freud when transference was considered bad. Now therapists are welcoming it so that the patient can explore and learn all through it. What I've found more tolerable is to be directed to articles or web pages that describe transference. Look up the subject, "Transference" and read. That can both be relieving and facing truths. That way I can accept what I'm able to and gradually understand without being so devastated by hard words like "I will learn to overcome it" or I will "get over it". I'm sure new patients, and some that have been on this awhile, are sure they can never "get over" it. I think it's the therapist's empathic patience and some reading about transference that is the least traumatic and can bring some relief. I don't know why therapists assume that patients can't read...duh.